Someone compared me to someone else and I have feelings about it. They said we look exactly the same. I was offended by it. Then I felt bad, because the only reason I’d be offended is if I thought the other person was unattractive. So now I’m an unattractive a-hole.
There is nothing wrong with the woman they said I look like. I’ve seen pictures of her dozens of times and never thought anything negative about her. Now that I’m picturing her in relation to me, she doesn’t wear much make up and is a little in the heavy side. So maybe we are super similar. I guess I can see it. It’s just not the way I see myself, or the way I want to be seen necessarily. Ugh! I feel like a jerk! But maybe I’m just being a jerk to myself and it’s not even about her.
The owner of The Life Coach School, Brooke Castillo said something like: If someone walked up to you and said “I hate your blue hair,” but you didn’t have blue hair, you wouldn’t be offended because there’s no truth in what they are saying. So, in order to be offended, there has to be something about what the person said that you do believe to be true. Otherwise, it wouldn’t phase you.
Anyways, Christmas Eve was lovely. Smaller than normal years, due to COVID, but still fun and exciting. Tonight Santa comes. The girls are thrilled. I love the holidays, especially with kids!
The Difference A Year Can Make 